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Judith J. Deickler
August 16, 1932 ~ December 17, 2023 (age 91) 91 Years Old
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Judith Joan Deickler passed away on December 17 th surrounded by her family. Her loving
husband Robert Barry Deickler passed away nine days later to join her in the next life.
Judy was born on August 16, 1932 to Ernest and Esther Russell in Glen Cove, NY. The second
of five children, she was predeceased by her parents, her sister Nancy, and her daughter Kathy.
She is survived by brothers David, Bob, and Donald.
Married to her teen sweetheart, Barry, in 1954, she was the devoted mother of Katherine
(Stephen Dyer), Deborah Leigh (Victor Cassarino), Beverly (Colin Harley) and William
(Christine Monet) Deickler; grandmother of Michael Bower, Kimberly Euler, James and David
Cassarino, Kaitlin and Andrew Harley, Amanda Cucinotti and Stephanie Brand, and great-
grandmother of Owen Brand and Leo Euler.
Judy grew up in Bedford Hills, NY. While attending Bedford Hills High School, she starred in
the play “Little Women” as Jo. She enjoyed singing, playing piano, sewing, knitting, and
drawing. She went on to receive a BS from Wagner College in 1954 with a nursing major. She
practiced nursing for a decade before actively working with her husband in the building business
and real estate. Judy was fierce in her love and advocacy of family and community. Her career
spanned many paths.
Judy served as Sunday School teacher and was the first female Warden at St Luke’s Episcopal
Church in Katonah, NY. She spent five years as co-chair of Bedford Central District #2
Curriculum Council & was an officer of various school associations. She was a member of the
Narcotics Guidance Council, where she set-up and managed a 24/7 hot-line serving Bedford,
Katonah, Mt. Kisco & Pound Ridge staffed by volunteers.
A member of the Bedford Zoning Board of Appeals for almost 15 years, she also served on the
Westchester Co. Industrial Development Agency and the Westchester Business Partnership. As
Chair of the Route 117 Advisory Committee, she paved the way for major roadway
improvements. Judy also chaired the Bedford Recreation Assessment Committee, resulting in the
establishment of a town wide Recreation Commission (with 3 Hamlet Committees).
One of seven women in NYS to serve on the NYS Associate Advisory Committee for Women in
the 1960s, she also had an active role in local, county & NYS politics, working on & managing
campaigns. She was a regular contributor to “Women’s News,” a regional paper.
From 1977 to 1985 she was Director of Education and Dean of the school of Real Estate for
Westchester County Board of REALTORS®. She wrote and also acted as reviewer of real estate
texts and authored articles for a national magazine on real estate issues.
President of the WCBR in 1992 she was named REALTOR® of the year in 1994. She remained
active in the NYS Association of REALTORS®, having chaired & served on many committees
and working groups. She particularly enjoyed chairing the NYSAR Legislative Committee and
related visits to Albany and DC.
An NYS approved Real Estate Instructor, she was one of the founding members of the Real
Estate Educators Association (REEA) and a regional VP for the Eastern Canadian provinces &
New England areas. She was named by REEA as RE Educator of the year in 1996.
Later, she and Barry moved to Pawling, NY. Indefatigable, she continued to work: as a State
appointed instructor for the AARP Driver Safety Program; as a Census taker; and as an aid to the
elderly and disabled for the Putnam Resource Center. She also sang with the Putnam Chorale for
almost ten years.
A joint memorial service for Judy & Barry will be held at Holy Trinity Episcopal Church, 22
Coulter Avenue, Pawling, NY 12564 on Saturday, December 30, 2023 at noon.